Dr. Bethany Cook is the author of For What It’s Worth – A Perspective on How to Thrive and Survive Parenting Ages 0 – 2. She has been called in as an “expert” for Parade Magazine, Today, WGN-Morning News, PureWow, and more. She is “officially” a full-time parent of two, a licensed Clinical Psychologist, Health Service Psychologist, Adjunct Professor, and a Board Certified Music Therapist. Currently, she is working on developing and producing TV shows centered on families and mental health among other things. The goal of these endeavors are to help others build strong family systems and encourage them to live their truth in order to strengthen their human connections through self-awareness and positive communication. Bethany is also a freelance writer and provides parenting articles on her own blog, https://doctorbethanycook.com/, posts and interacts daily with followers on her Facebook group – A Perspective on Parenting and enjoys making fun and engaging content on her TikTok account (@DrBCook)
When it comes to creating genuine feelings of connection with others (especially children), repetitive and trite phrases—the kind spoken out of habit—may actually do more harm than good, because these trite responses can make people feel invalidated.” In other words, if the end goal is to truly connect with your kid, the best thing you can do is to take yourself off autopilot and opt for more thoughtful speech instead. Kids can feel their parent’s autopilot energy. And a deep parent-child connection requires knowing what emotional or mental things are happening in your kid’s life or checking in with them to find out.