Dr. Shannon Chavez is a nationally recognized Expert, Therapist, and Educator specializing in “all things sexuality” including help for men, women, and couples; the treatment of sexual disorders; sex education for conservative religious and cultural groups; sexual trauma and abuse; and compulsive behaviors surrounding love, romance, and sex. She is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in California (PSY26924) and Arizona (PSY004290) and has a private practice in Beverly Hills, California where she works with individuals and couples (both heterosexual and same-sex) to address sexual concerns and build sexual awareness through therapy, coaching, and education.
Generally, crying during sex is not considered a turn-on. This is particularly true when you’ve been trying to come for the past 10 minutes, rubbing yourself raw while your boyfriend of four years grows increasingly frustrated and probably ― you think ― rather bored of the whole routine.
Priorities change over time in a relationship and couples may focus on other areas of connection to meet intimacy needs. It is only a deal breaker if a couple cannot communicate about it effectively. Most people believe that great sex should just happen ‘naturally’ if the partners are compatible, but I firmly believe that chemistry is something we create and maintain.