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Tom Murray, PhD, MBA

Founder | Lead Consultant at Practice Muse, Inc and 2 other companies
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Tom Murray, PhD, MBA | Sex & Relationship Therapist | Psychology of Money Expert

Dr. Thomas L. Murray, Jr. is an AASECT-certified sex therapist, forensic sexologist, and licensed marriage and family therapist with over 20 years in the mental health field. Known for his direct, no-nonsense style, Tom helps people untangle the real from the reactive in their sex lives, relationships, and money behaviors.

He’s the author of Making Nice with Naughty, an intimacy guide for overcontrolled, perfectionist types. Tom is also a nationally certified financial therapist and offers rare insight into how shame, control, and desire shape both bedroom behavior and financial choices.

As a media guest, Tom brings clear, bold takes backed by science and real-world experience. He’s been interviewed by reality TV producers, speaks at national conferences, and works with high-functioning professionals who struggle with vulnerability.

His favorite questions: Why do we hide from the things we crave? And what’s the cost of being "in control"?

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Sex & desire in long-term relationships

Porn use, infidelity, and digital intimacy

Financial anxiety and couples’ money fights

Perfectionism, shame, and sexual functioning

Masculinity, power, and psychological control

Tom’s approach is smart, sharp, and deeply human—perfect for journalists looking to go beyond the usual headlines.

Location: Greensboro, NC (Available for national media)

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  • Understanding Moral Outrage: Insights from Psychologist Tom Murray
    Tom defines moral outrage as "anger dressed up in virtue," combining emotion and judgment. Linked to high Conscientiousness, low Openness, and low Agreeableness, empathy can fuel it, but ego often masquerades as care. While short bursts motivate, chronic outrage leads to burnout. Tom advises, "You can’t fix the world if you’re wrecked," emphasizing self-care and connection before action.
  • Wedge Pillows: Enhancing Comfort and Intimacy in the Bedroom
    Dr. Murray explains, “Wedge pillows provide support for different body angles, allowing partners to try new positions comfortably. They relieve pressure on joints, making intimacy easier for those with physical limitations. The incline can increase sensitivity and creativity, enhancing pleasure and relaxation.”
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  • Sex includes foreplay. Therefore, missing it is detrimental to all parties concerned. Additionally, physical or oral stimulation, according to Tom Murray, PhD, a sex and relationship therapist at A Path to Wellness Integrative Psychiatry, are alternative (perhaps more efficient) ways to turn your spouse on. So go back to those erogenous areas and enjoy yourself.

    “Penis owners might ask their partners what they think would be enjoyable. Rapid ejaculators may initially concentrate on making their partner orgasm before engaging in penetrative intercourse, the researcher continues.

    https://medium.com/@jessmillsonline/best-22-tips-and-tricks-to-stay-longer-in-bed-2096d2824ea7

  • What’s more, the unsexy ripple effects of COVID-19 persist. “Humans have always found a way to get freaky, regardless of what’s going on in the world, and in fact, hookup apps boomed during the pandemic,” says Tom Murray, Ph.D., AASECT, author of Making Nice With Naughty. “Unfortunately, the pandemic also increased the time spent with significant others, which could grow old quickly, and sexual desire would often decrease. The fire of desire requires mystery, and the pandemic could cause that mystery to evaporate.”

    See link for many more quotes from the article!

    https://honehealth.com/edge/health/what-happens-when-a-man-is-not-sexually-active/

  • You're generally on the same page about how often to have sex. Specifically, how often would feel satisfying for both parties? If you're just not on the same page with this one, you can talk about implementing other forms of action on no-sex days or stretches, too, such as different types of sensual or sexual activities to increase intimacy, adds Murray. This can look like making out or even just cuddling—whatever works for both people.

    https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a43498347/what-is-sexual-compatiblity/?fbclid=PAAaaHw5VohFB-7zuIVNUYS6y4Sat20K99itxpNMNLI8MraVrV5SEb_SCwJqY

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