“The Plumber sex position actually requires a fair amount of strength from both partners and flexibility and balance from the receiver. Adding in some support can help you both focus on the moment and maximize the pleasure for both partners,” says Isabelle Uren, writer and editor at Bedbible.com.
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“While it can be fantastic to focus solely on one partner's pleasure from time to time, the giving partner can also get a slice of the fun with a hands-free sex toy. Two great options are the Lovense Lush 3 for some internal stimulation, or a vibrating butt plug, like the Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Vibrating Butt Plug,” says Uren.
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“If you enjoy a little BDSM, the receiving partner can slowly drag a leather flogger over the giving partner's back and butt for some thrilling sensation play. For something a little more powerful, the receiver can use a spanking paddle to lightly spank their partner's butt,” says Uren. “It goes without saying this is something most partners must agree to beforehand, and it's essential to have clear boundaries and a safe action rather than a safe word, as the giving partner's mouth will be obstructed.”
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/positions/a37937377/plumber-sex-position/
9 November 2021"Our first formal ideas about sex are that sex is when a man puts his penis in a woman's vagina. This excludes anyone who is not a heterosexual cisgender person and creates a restrictive view of what sex is," says Isabelle Uren, an expert at sex blog Bed Bible.
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“For additional stimulation, use one of the best lubes to help your fingers glide over your partner's clitoris. Experiment with different movements and pressures, such as tapping or circling the clitoris and consider using clitoral suction vibrators that stimulate the internal and external parts of the clitoris on your partner or for mutual masturbation,” says Isabelle.
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“The receiving partner has more control over the pace and rhythm, as they can rock their hips back and forth—a motion that can also increase the chance of orgasm. The receiving partner can also use their hands to massage their breasts and nipples. That's a whole lot of stimulation,” says Isabelle.
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Often, on-top positions can be more intimidating if you feel self-conscious about your weight, so going for positions that highlight the parts of your body you feel confident about is always more enjoyable,” says Isabelle.
“Positions where your partner stimulates you from behind, give them a great view of your butt while giving you more coverage of the front of your body if that is what you prefer. You can also use furniture and props to help you feel more supported, such as on all fours with pillows underneath you or leaning over a kitchen counter or chair.”
https://www.womanandhome.com/health-wellbeing/sex/best-lesbian-sex-positions/
9 November 2021“While the nature and severity of sexual dysfunction can vary from person to person, this highlights how common of a problem it can be and the importance of breaking the stigmas around it,” shares Isabelle Uren, a Bedbible sex expert with an academic background in psychology.
But know this: just because you’re going through the menopause, doesn’t mean you should stop enjoying sex, shares the expert.
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“Often there are multiple factors at play,” explains Uren. “First of all, decreased levels of estrogen can lead lead to a lower sex drive and cause the vaginal tissues to become more fragile and easily irritated.”
There are also the other physical and emotional effects of menopause that can impact sex drive, such as changes in mood, lack of sleep, and low self-esteem, the expert explains.
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“There are plenty of ways to increase arousal, including physical touch, reading erotic fiction, listening to erotic audio stories, or watching feminist, ethical porn. Use this time to rediscover what turns you on,” advises Uren.
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“Make masturbation and sex part of your self-care routine,” she advises. “As well as helping you figure out what feels good, it can help improve mood, reduce anxiety and improve blood flow to your vulva — a definite win, win.”
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“Decreased blood flow can make your vulva less sensitive, so finding a good vibrator can help you get the level of stimulation you need, plus the vibrations can also increase blood flow,” she shares.
Her top picks? “Either a silicone clitoral stimulator or a clitoral suction vibrator. One of the benefits of clitoral suction vibrators is that they provide powerful but indirect stimulation, making them great for people who find direct contact with the clitoris uncomfortable,” she explains.
https://www.marieclaire.co.uk/life/health-fitness/menopause-sex-drive-753031
9 November 2021