JUL 19, 2020 - With the right guidance an exuberant toddler who declares “I did it all by myself” can grow into a self-sufficient preteen who can handle household tasks and everyday activities with healthy self-esteem. The key is starting early and practicing the skills. “Repetition is an important element of learning. Teaching responsibilities and social manners takes time,” said Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, director of Parentchildhelp.com and author of “Raising Your Spirited Child.” Children as young as 2 can help around the house and often are excited to be a contributing member of the family, said Sheedy Kurcinka, whose new book, “Raising Your Spirited Baby,” will be available in December.
From a home standpoint, as a parent I would expect my child to be able to set the table and clear it all on their own by age 10. My daughter is almost 3 and it’s really important to me that she clears her own plate, bowl, spoon and fork after a meal. She knows exactly where the sink is, and she has two legs of her own, I like to remind her. Together, we unload the dishwasher (cautiously) each morning.