Shadeen Francis is a licensed psychotherapist, media personality, graduate professor, and author whose expertise spans the domains of sex therapy, emotional intelligence, and social justice. She has been featured on platforms like ABC, CBS, NBC, FOX and the New York Times to share her unique perspective, and her insights have been printed by Cosmopolitan, MindBodyGreen, Refinery29, Playboy, Nylon magazine, and Tinder Swipelife, among others.
Reaching out to ask 'how are you' is rarely a productive conversation starter. And it can put extra pressure on your black friends to describe their pain to you in an already overwhelming and traumatic time. Racism isn't new, and for black people's pain to be suddenly spotlighted once there is national outcry, doesn't make the check-in feels supportive. It just acts as a contrast to all the times in the past their pain wasn't acknowledged.27 May 2021